Thursday, May 24, 2007

Say it ain't so

Can you believe this? How do you guys feel about a 60 year old woman giving birth? Just think, when her kids are in kindergarten she will be a senior citizen and everyone will think they are her grandsons.
I take Blake to the library every week for story time and I have been very fascinated by a certain woman there. She brings a toddler each week and is very pregnant with another child. She looks like she is in her mid-fifties. It's really hard to not just blurt out the burning question of how old she is EVERYTIME I see her. Although that reminds me that I haven't seen her lately so I guess she had her baby.

10 comments:

Emily said...

I certainly have strong feelings about it and think that at that age you are doing it for a purely selfish reason. So IVF worked for some 60 year old? (who definitely did not use her own eggs) and not for me? Tell me what is wrong with that picture. LOL!

Melissa C. said...

I think it's crazy! When they graduate High School she'll be 78! I can't imagine. Oh well. I guess people can do whatever they want, even if it's crazy!

Amy said...

I agree- it's for selfish reasons. This mom won't be able to run and play and be active with her kids. For chores they will be cleaning her dentures and turning on her oxygen machine!!! When I am 60 you better believe the last thing I want to be thinking about is taking care of 2 crying babies!!!

rebecca said...
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rebecca said...

I don't know the situation of the person at the library, but I always assume "older" first time moms have been waiting for this moment for a long time. My prayers for a healthy delivery were answered after almost 5 (sometimes deeply painful) years, so I can only imagine that if it had been 20 or 30 years, while not ideal, still a long awaited joy. I could be wrong.

And the lady in the article - she already has a young son and wanted him to have a sibling. I don't think that's wrong. I mean, she went through IVF so you have to assume these babies are very wanted.

Selfish? More selfish than any of us? I don't know about you, but I have babies because I WANT them, not because I think I'm contributing to the greater good of society. I have spent most of the last 8 years selfishly wanting more children. I'm selfish for having four and wanting five kids when some people don't have any. I'm selfish for having too many and overpopulating Moorpark.

There are worse things - like 20 something moms who are young enough to run and play with their kids, but don't because they're on drugs, then their kids get taken away and are left in the foster care system for example.

I don't think 60 is ideal, or anyone's original plan, but still a blessing to the family.

Becky M said...
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Becky M said...

Great comments Rebecca. I think the thing that was interesting about this lady is that she has two older children as well - the daughter (28 I think) didn't want her mom to have any more - in fact she seemed pretty bitter about it. I don't think the son (33) had any comment on it - at least not that I can remember from when I read it on MSN the other day.

Amy, I think the lady must have had her baby since she was talking about dilating about a month ago and she hasn't been to story time since!

L said...

So I guess at (almost) 29 and still (very) single, I should stop worrying about the biological clock ticking!

Emily said...

I think there is a big difference between a 40 year old attempting to get pregnant and a 60 year old. That is where the selfishness is. There is no way at that age that you will be able to be there for your children in a way that other moms that aren't 60+ can.

I think we can all agree that all babies are blessings and miracles.

Emily said...

Amy, I am laughing so hard reading this post because I can HEAR you saying it! "I'm fascinated and want you shout out the burning question.."

I really really want to see you again, soon. Will you plan a reunion in California or Utah?